Exhausted and weak, I sat in my room after a long and painful run in the rain. I wondered, exasperated, at my increasingly sadistic tendencies, ‘Why on earth do I do this to myself? Why do I put myself through pain for no reason?’ Putting on my comfiest jumper and sipping a green tea, feeling warm on the inside, I suddenly realize: the painful things that we go through in our lives make us appreciate all the little pleasures.
If all we had was ‘good’, we would never recognize it as such.
I then listened to a song with voice recordings by philosopher Alan Watts, called ‘Hungry Ghost‘, and the lyrics at that moment resonated with me:
“If you are aware of a state which you call ‘is’, or reality, or life; this implies another state called isn’t. Or illusion, or unreality, or nothingness, or death. There it is: you can’t know one without the other. And so, as to make life poignant, it’s always got to come to an end. That is exactly, don’t you see, what makes it lively. Liveliness is change, is motion. You can see that you are always at the place you always are, only it keeps appearing to change.”
If we did not have illusion, we would not know reality. If we did not know pain, we would not know pleasure: or instead, we would change our definition of pain, just like a spoilt child that cries when he does not get exactly what he wants.
And I think that, deep down, we all recognize this, and is the exact reason why we sometimes act in ways that cause us some form of pain.
Everything is relative; everything can be exciting, everything can be mundane. Therefore, in order to be truly appreciated, everything needs to be balanced.
Those who try to live a life without sadness will never find happiness, and those that accept and embrace pain will be able to appreciate also the good things in life.






